When We Lose

Past events of our lives are just an accumulation of experiences that we lived. Losses are a main part of it. You might lose a job, money, a relationship, or an opportunity. In the beginning you will feel hurt, pain, a fire will burn inside your chest, you may even shed a tear.

When losses happen, it is natural to react with sadness, anger, or even stress, but some of us dwell on them, oblivious to other opportunities that come across the way disguised in the form of a loss. Yes, we suffer a lot because of closed doors, but later we discover that the door next to it is the one for our lives. In fact, learning from failure may be more important than success! The famous writer John Maxwell says, “Successful people handle failure differently. They do not ignore it as if it was nothing. They do not run away from their losses. Their motto is not ‘sometimes you win, sometimes you lose’. Instead, they think ‘sometimes you win, sometimes you learn’. They understand that life’s greatest lessons are gained from losing.” Talking to yourself after any loss is what determines the kind of actions you will take. Hugh Prather says, “When I listened to my mistakes, I matured.”

By nature, losses make us feel emotionally stuck. Our lives may change yet these losses remain stuck in our minds. Writer and lecturer Les Brown says, “We put the good times in our pockets, and we put the bad times in our hearts.” In psychology, Post-Traumatic Stress is a kind of stress and painful emotions that occur after any loss or misfortune which may turn into a psychological disorder called PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder). However, lately, researchers noticed that some people who experienced hard times became more successful and brilliant in their lives despite the sorrow they experienced. They have surpassed that phase to advanced levels of prosperity and personal growth. Researchers call it Post Traumatic Growth.

There is always a chance to deal with our losses in more effective ways that make us more successful in our lives, or at least less sad!

Resource : https://bjalalah.com/2019/02/08/%D8%AD%D9%8A%D9%86-%D9%86%D8%AE%D8%B3%D8%B1/

Written by : Bandar Al-jalalah

Translated by : Hala Aburaas

Edited by : Nourah Al-ahmad

Reviewed by : Shahad Salah Banakher